Weddings

St. Tom's is a special place, a pretty, modern Victorian chapel-style Church, with a tranquil and peaceful atmosphere.


Our weddings policy is designed to prepare you as a couple for life together in marriage and for the day itself and starts with an informal meeting with one of our clergy team. You will also need to attend one of our wedding preparation evenings: a fun and informal evening over a meal and a glass of wine or beer (or something soft) with the weddings team and one or two other couples getting married at St Thomas'.  We try to schedule these evenings in the 3 months prior to your wedding day, where possible.


Getting married in a Church of England Church is dependent on certain legal qualifying criteria, if you have a connection with the village or regularly attend one of our services, that is a great place to start!


Most couples get married ‘by Banns’ a traditional process of reading the names of the betrothed each week for 3 weeks in Church in the month or so prior to the wedding ceremony, however if you need a special license of any sort then we will walk through the process together. Through the wedding process we will need to see proof of your identity and UK/EU citizenship (non-UK citizens may need to be married by special or common license).


Please do not book any post-ceremony venues or invite any guests until you have had an initial meeting with the vicar or clergy team, discussed dates
and had a booking date confirmed.  We cannot guarantee any date discussed until a booking deposit has been received.  

Please contact one of us by using the contact details on the 
Contact page and download our Wedding Booklet

Remarrying after Divorce
The Church honours marriage as a life-long commitment two people make to one-another, but we also recognise that divorce can be a fact of modern life and that we serve a God that loves to bring renewal into our lives.  In some cases divorcees may marry at St. Toms, if they fulfil the legal criteria, and at the discretion of the vicar. However they must talk this through with the Vicar who will need to see the Certificate of Decree Absolute and may need to discuss some of the details of your previous married relationship, in some situations this may include contacting a previous spouse.


In circumstances where marriage after divorce isn't possible at St Tom's we'd be very happy to explore the possibility of a wedding blessing after a civil service at a registry office.

Please contact us by using the contact details on the 
Contact page.


Wedding Blessings.
At St. Thomas' we also offer the blessing of a marriage as an opportunity to celebrate in Church following a service at the Registry Office.


Please contact us by using the contact details on the 
Contact page for more information.

Renewal of Wedding Vows.
Often these are requested at times of a significant anniversary. Also this can be a time of renewal in a marriage, or as a reaffirmation to each other of the promises of your wedding day.

A Wedding with a Difference!

On Saturday 8th August 2008, Mark Broom and Luba Stepanova joined hands in holy matrimony at St Thomas’ Church, Fair Oak; the way they did it was certainly not traditional.
 
It was a surprise to all.  The family and closest friends of Mark and Luba prepared to enter the church building in style.  It was then, the music blazed, ‘Chris Brown – Forever’.  The ushers began dancing down the aisle, whilst others followed with a variety of simple yet effective choreographed routines.  The groom rolled in until the bride stole the show.  A great start to such a great wedding!   
 
“Having our wedding at St Toms was such a celebration!  The joy of having our family and friends join us in celebrating our love for one another was an unforgettable happy memory.  Even more so was the fact that the vicar and his wife participated in our dancing wedding entrance.  I’m sure a memory they will never forget also!”
 
Mark and Luba have just celebrated their two year anniversary, enjoying life together and with a little one on the way!    
 
With over 5,000 hits, you can view ‘Mark and Luba’s dance’ on YouTube.